"If ... you expect that your spouse is always going to make you happy ... your expectations are unrealistic." (Lauer and Lauer, Marriage and Family: The Quest for Intimacy, 8th edition)
What do you expect your marriage to be like? Before getting married, and even before getting engaged, you and your loved one should be on the same page. In 1982, Dr. William Garrett's book, Seasons of Marriage and Family Life, was published. He suggests that couples even write out agreements, called informal marriage contracts. When couples use these contracts to clarify expectations and prepare to face challenges, they will be less likely to experience conflict and confusion later over questions couples commonly face. It is important to always be open for compromise on these matters. Here are some of the topics Garrett invites you to discuss:
I would like to add that if these are hard questions, or if you have any doubt, they are questions you can study out and then take to God. Some of these issues may be more important to Him than others, but He has a plan for your family. If you strive to perceive that plan and live by it, then He will make you into the person and the family you were meant to be.